Day 40: Richard’s Letter to Faith Community Church

April 9, 2009

My Dear Friends,

Our 40 day journey has come to an end. My prayer has been that our church wide emphasis has helped you draw nearer to God than ever before.

I realize that as much as we’d like reaching this milestone to somehow have permanently made us better Christians I’m sure you’ve begun to suspect there is still further to go. You’ve retained many of your weaknesses. Perhaps you’ve even become aware of new ones. Maybe you began the 40 days with gusto and fanfare but are now limping toward the finish line. Perhaps the 40 days have worn you out and the extra effort left you spiritually exhausted. If perchance you feel that way it’s okay. There is great benefit in the exertion!

It may surprise you to learn that God often used periods of 40 days to signal important change. The Bible describes periods of 40 days as preparation for a new beginning with God. In other words, the 40 day period isn’t the end of the journey, it’s the beginning.

Recall, for instance, Moses was instructed by God for 40 days in the rarified atmosphere of Mt. Sinai. His 40 day fast prepared him to lead Israel to be God’s light to the nations (Exodus 24:18). Jesus experienced a 40 day fast of preparation in the wilderness prior to the start of his public ministry (Luke 4:2). Later Jesus used this same tactic with his apostles (Acts 1:3). He instructed them for 40 days following his resurrection preparing them for the church’s mission.

A new beginning with God takes preparation. What you’ve read in this blog for the past 40 days was meant to deepen your walk with God, intensify your prayers, stimulate your mind, enrich your church experience, and lift your worship. In short, we have desired to prepare you for a new beginning with God to fulfill your mission. So don’t look at it as the end. Look at it as the beginning!

For me the combination of our study through the early chapters of Romans discussing our ruined nature and the 40 days of intensified devotion has proved a potent combination. I am more aware now of my inadequacies and sin than ever before. While everything in me wants to suppress that view of myself when I compare it with Scripture I discover it is the pathway to healing and life (Romans 7:18; Ephesians 2:1-5). Jesus said, “Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit” (John 3:6). Pursuing God as we have pulls the rug out from under our own efforts and leaves us more dependent upon Jesus. This gives birth to a work of God’s spirit in our lives. John the Baptist put it eloquently, “He must increase, I must decrease” (John 3:30). 

If you’re ready to look at your 40 day journey as a new beginning I must give you a word of warning. After the Apostle Paul wrote an impassioned plea for his beloved Timothy to follow the model he set he warned him it would be difficult. The Message puts it this way: “Anyone who wants to live all out for Christ is in for a lot of trouble; there’s no getting around it” (2 Timothy 3:12). Moses came down the mountain to idolatry and dirty dancing. Jesus met the devil on the Temple roof. The Apostles were dragged before the Sanhedrin.

If you took this 40 day experience seriously you shouldn’t expect to be met with applause. Figure on conflict and confrontation. This world isn’t set up to support your commitment. The core part of your being is greatly attracted to synthetic religiosity and outright pagan lusts that in time will attempt to anesthetize your exuberance for the true and living God. How will you persevere?

You will persevere by rereading and rededicating yourself to the time honored spiritual disciplines we’ve led you through in these 40 days. You’ll cling to the gospel, which is not only the word of God but the power of God to live out your daily life in Christ (1 Thessalonians 1:5). You’ll make church a priority because you realize you need it and others need you to persevere in the faith (Hebrews 10:24-25). You’ll persevere because God will slowly take away your appetite for this world and replace it with a love for the next.

Someday you’ll look back on your earthly existence and wonder at all that seemed so important at the time yet didn’t amount to a hill of beans. My letter to you is an attempt to furnish you with that perspective today. Keep your eyes on Jesus! He alone is able to keep you from falling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy. He alone is worthy to be praised with your whole life. Let your 40 day journey be preparation for a new beginning. 

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord. NKJ 1 Corinthians 15:58

- Pastor Richard


Day 39: Essentials for Growth – Category Busting

April 8, 2009

One thing I hear fairly often is that only the gospel can transform people.  Only Christianity can set people free from sins like alcoholism or depression.  I actually don’t think this actually true at all.  People all over the world have been changed by religions other than Christianity.  Many muslims have overcome problems through Islam.  Many people have found hope in life through buddhism.  It’s simply not true that only Christianity changes people.  However what IS true is that only the gospel changes us to be like Jesus.  

Religious change is common and usually not that spectacular.  Sins may be overcome through religion but usually those areas of progress are accompanied by increases in pride and self righteousness.  The gospel is different.  It creates category busting faith that is both incredibly humble and incredibly confident at the same time.

Our culture “gets” and mostly dismisses liberal religion.  Liberal religion tends to be focused on tolerance and deeds of kindness to the poor but it doesn’t insist on the reality of sin, human lostness, the necessity of salvation or the truth of Scripture.  

Our culture also “gets” and mostly dismisses fundamentalist religion.  Fundamentalism (of the type I’m talking about) tends to be very insistent on absolutes and moral truth but is often proud, ungracious, self-righteous and oppressive.  

Our culture has a category for liberal Christians and, as a whole, our culture ignores their message.  Our culture also has a category for fundamentalist Christians and again, as a whole, ignores their message as well.  There’s nothing  supernatural about either.  It’s just dismissed, ignored, maybe laughed at or ridiculed.  The case I want to make is that Jesus shaped character cannot be so easily dismissed because it explodes our cultures categories.  

One basic summary of the truth of the gospel is that: 

You are more wicked and sinful than you ever dared believe

and

More loved and accepted than you ever dared hope.  

Most people error on one side or the other of these truths but the gospel holds them both together simultaneously.  

We’ll illustrate by the example of how a homosexual would tend to be treated in both the liberal church and the fundamentalist church.  Gays are used to EITHER being “bashed” and hated or completely accepted.  But the gospel reveals to us that each one of us is horribly sinful.  So much so that it took God’s death by torture to pay for our sin.  So on one hand we can’t possibly sit in self-righteous judgment on someone else because we ourselves are in same boat as they are.  Nor can we possibly ignore their sin because that wouldn’t be loving or honoring to God’s word.  

Gospel churches will be: 

  • More committed to biblical truth than fundamentalists. 
  • More committed to compassion and social justice than liberals. 
  • More serious about the necessity of conversion than fundamentalists. 
  • More winsome, respectful and patient towards those who don’t believe than liberals. 

If you want to see what this looked like read the gospels.  Jesus was incredibly intriguing and attractive to sinners.  When the gospel shapes our character we manage to combine  usually paradoxical character qualities.  Humbleness and confidence.  Truth and love.  When the world sees Christians living out the gospel they can’t dismiss it.  It’s intriguing because it doesn’t fit into any category they have because it can only be created supernaturally through the gospel. 

Do you live out a category busting faith?  


Day 38: Essentials for Growth – Authenticity

April 7, 2009

Other than really bad “blonde” or “your mama” jokes that Middle Schoolers have on auto play, two of the most common butts of jokes in American culture are lawyers and used car salesmen.  (If you are a lawyer or a car salesman, I am not trying to be hurtful, only to make a point about our culture! My apologies!)

The reason we love inserting them into our poor jokes, is because we have a stereotype of those two professions as being filled with people who are trying to present a product or a defendant in a way that is different than they actually are.  We fear purchasing a used car because we fear that what the salesman is saying is inauthentic to try and “make a sale,” our guard is up before we hit the car lot. We fear lawyers because we do not trust that what they are saying is true, authentic, or in our best interest, unless, of course, they are working for us!   

Our culture is so averse to anyone who is inauthentic because we want to believe and trust that what we are hearing or seeing is true.  Have you ever met someone who was syrupy sweet in a group setting, but immediately turned into a gossip behind closed doors?  Some would call that being a hypocrite, others would associate it with being inauthentic. Another way to explain authenticity is that it is the opposite virtue to the sin of hypocrisy.  Authenticity doesn’t mean being perfect, it means not hiding or “spinning” the areas where we aren’t perfect.  An authentic person “feels” like a real person who can be trusted.  A community that is authentic “feels” like they are genuine and loving, and mean what they say.  

I once visited a church and they must have wanted visitors to feel welcome because they had a greeting team.  The problem was the greeters they had were about as sincere in their welcome as the teenager who says “have a nice day” after bagging your purchases at Walmart.  The inauthenticity of the greeting actually made the words “good morning, we’re so glad you’re here” communicate the exact opposite.  

The point is that authenticity in the gospel is where real communication happens.  Mark Driscoll talks about Churches that preach grace in theory but actually live out performance.  Here’s his list of the two types of characteristics: 

Communities of Performance

  • People talk about grace, but communicate legalism
  • Unbelievers can’t imagine themselves as Christians
  • Drive away broken people
  • The world is seen as threatening and ‘other’
  • Conversion is superficial—people are called to respectable behavior
  • People are secretly hurting
  • People see faith and repentance as actions that took place at conversion
  • The gospel is for unbelievers

Communities of Grace

  • People can see grace in action
  • Unbelievers feel like they can belong
  • Attract broken people
  • People are loved as fellow sinners in need of grace
  • Conversion is radical—people are called to transformed affections
  • People are open about their problems
  • People see faith and repentance as daily activities
  • The gospel is for both unbelievers and believers

What a huge difference between performance and grace.  Here’s the thing, you can’t tell which type of church it will be from the doctrine statement.  You could have two churches each with 100% true doctrinal statements.  You go to one and it’s a community of performance, you go to the other and it’s all about grace.  The difference is our authenticity.  I never want to be the pastor who gives the impression I’m perfect, doubt-free and sinless.  That I’ve somehow arrived.  

I’ve been down at the shore or at South Street and seen Christians street “witnessing” in ways that were more about winning arguments with non-christians than about sharing the gospel.  The person being witnessed to was treated more as a commodity than a person and the decision to become a christian more like buying a used car than faith and repentance. 

There has to be some reality to this thing or it’s not attractive at all.  One pastor I like, Matt Chandler, always jokes about how religion is a really dumb hobby.  He says things like “look if your doing church every week but don’t love Jesus that’s a really bad waste of your time, go golfing or something instead.”  His point is that nothing we do as Christians makes much sense if it’s not driven by a real internal heart motivation of love for God and love for others.  When it comes to evangelism or being kind and welcoming if it’s not real the counterfeit is probably worse than if no effort was made at all.  

Once again the virtue of authenticity, like so many other essentials we’ve discussed, is expressed individually in our own personal manner as well as corporately in the community “vibe”.  How do you think you’re doing?  How do you think Faith is doing? 


Day 37: Essentials for Growth – Trust

April 6, 2009

beware-of-god2It will take church to help many people convert to christianity.  It will take church to help all people grow after they are christians.  Sometimes this presents a problem for those who are developing relationships with non-christian friends in the hopes of introducing them to God.  Sometimes church is the last place you want someone to be who you’re trying to help become a christian.  This could be true for millions of reasons and hopefully it’s not true at all here at faith.  Here’s a few examples:

  • Sometimes the “vibe” in a church doesn’t communicate God’s love and grace towards sinners.  Rather the unspoken but implicit message is that there are bad folks out there in the culture who get divorced, drink, smoke, sleep around etc. but here in church there’s good christians who aren’t tempted with all that filth.  
  • The atmosphere or language is so alien to someone who hasn’t grown up in church that it’s virtually unintelligible to someone not experienced with how churches do business.  In some churches it’s like trying to order food in a French speaking restaurant based on a High School French class you took 10 years ago. You catch every fifth word or so, but the rest just sounds confusing!
  • Sometimes ministry leaders or pastors have soap box issues that alienate and distract from the Bible and the gospel.  
  • Sometimes the Pastor and ministry leaders are preaching grace and the gospel, but other people in the church continue to communicate that you must look, act, and speak a certain way just to attend or to fit in.

What I’m talking about goes beyond what pastors say (though they have the greatest influence).  It’s an atmosphere created by the whole church.  A vibe that comes from the spirit of the whole community.  Sometimes this vibe is invisible to Christians  because they’re so familiar with how things work, the jargon and already have a network of friendships that help them navigate.  It’s when an unbelieving friend or family member visits that you suddenly realize all the things about church that might be alienating or confusing. 

There are many reasons why it might be scary to bring a friend exploring Christianity to church, but we still need the church.  First of all, it will take a church environment for many people to become christians, because they need a clear gospel presentation and they must also see the Gospel lived out in community.  They are asking, “Are these people hypocrites?” “Does this actually work?”  “Will these people even accept me?”   They need to see how it works or they won’t believe it. An example I’ve used before is the Bible’s teaching on headship and submission in marriage.  If you haven’t seen this lived out in a healthy marriage the idea of husbands being the head and wives submitting sounds horribly oppressive and regressive.  It takes more than just good teaching to persuade, it takes demonstration. One of the saddest scenarios is when a community is preaching that God loves and wants to save everyone, but their actions exclude people who are different than they are temperamentally or otherwise.

Second, all of us need the church to grow as Christians.  The Christian life was never meant to be lived in isolation; it requires a community to teach, practice baptism, Communion, fellowship, rebuke, encourage, pray and worship.  A Christian without the church is like a computer without the internet.  It technically works but can’t really fulfill what it’s designed to do unless it’s connected in with other computers.  It takes faith to believe in the church just like it takes faith to believe in Jesus.    

A case could be made that it takes more faith to believe in the church than it does to believe in Jesus.  Jesus is God’s perfect son.  The church is most definitely imperfect.  That’s why so very very many people say they love Jesus but hate “organized religion.”  It takes faith to believe in the church just like it takes faith to believe in Jesus.  That’s why in the Apostles Creed it doesn’t just say “I believe in God the father almighty, maker of heaven and earth and in Jesus Christ his only son, our Lord…” but also says “I believe in the Holy Spirit, the Holy Christian Church…”  The writers of the ancient creed purposefully put in a confession of faith, not only in God and the gospel but in the church as well. 

Do you trust Faith Community Church?  One symptom of trust in a church is confidence in bringing unbelieving friends to services and ministries.  When I plan youth group or when Richard prepares his sermon in addition to helping you we want you thinking to yourself as your sitting in the service “man I wish so and so was here to hear this.”  The funny thing about this is that a church can be very effective with helping people who are already Christians but ineffective with reaching non-christians because of a trust gap.  One pastor I know talks about “relational rent”.  Someone’s got a relationship with a person exploring Christianity.  They’re working hard over time to build trust so the person can see through previous bad experiences with church or christianity.  If they sense church might cost them relational rent rather than pay into their relational rent account they won’t decide to bring that friend to church.

Here are a few areas of trust that are important if we’re to be a church effective at evangelism. 

Preach Christ from the Bible

  • It isn’t enough just to use the Bible.  Cults do that.  Teaching the Bible rightly  means always connecting what you say to Jesus.  I had a professor in seminary who would often say “If your sermon doesn’t require Jesus death and resurrection to be true it’s not a christian sermon.”  

Be Intelligible

  • 1 Corinthians 14:23-24 speak about how if an unbeliever can’t understand what’s going on they’ll think us nuts but if they do understand the secrets of their heart will be laid bare and they’ll fall down in worship.  
  • There are lots of tribal, jargony words that, if they aren’t explained will be incredibly confusing to someone who hasn’t gone to church. 
  • Elements in a service may also be very confusing if they aren’t explained.  

Be Relevant

  • It is possible to be completely biblically correct in a sermon AND completely irrelevant to the audience hearing the sermon.  The problem isn’t with the Bible or the gospel, it’s with the person communicating.  
  • Relevance is when biblical gospel truth is applied to the real life issues of a given community in a way that they understand.  If it’s not biblical, or if it’s not related to their lives, or if it’s not understandable it’s irrelevant. 

Be Grace Filled

  • Sometimes the message of grace can be communicated in totally ungracious ways.  A belief in grace without actual love grace lived out in the church community isn’t received as grace.  It’s either perceived as hypocrisy or misunderstood altogether.   

I want to challenge you to think about how you contribute to making our church welcoming or a place that is confusing to the world? If you say you don’t trust Faith church, is it really because there is something alienating about our church? Or, Are you using it as an excuse to avoid awkwardly inviting a friend to come with you? 

We can preach grace, the gospel, truth, and community every week, but if it is not lived out in our relationships with one another and our community, no one will want to be a part of our group.  We ALL need to be grace filled, and working to build up trust in our church.

Three Important Notes: 

  1.  I believe Faith is actually a very welcoming community.  I’m not picking on our church.  I also believe we’re not perfect.  The gap in our culture can be so wide sometimes that we could be better than 90% of churches out there and still not be that effective. 
  2. Much of this kind of thing is actually primarily perpetrated by pastors more than congregations.  I myself have made every mistake, sometimes by accident, sometimes because of my own sinfulness.  Part of the goal of the survey section down below will be for the purpose of helping Richard and I, not just you.  None the less you should know Richard and I work very hard not to alienate or obfuscate. 
  3. Whenever I express concern with offending a non-christian I am in no way speaking about compromising biblical truth.  The gospel is the MOST offensive thing in the world.  It says you’re so bad you should go to hell and that your completely helpless to fix yourself.  That’s offensive and it’s got to be expressed.  Offending of the type I’m talking about is the kind of offending done out of pride, hypocrisy, arrogance etc.  Basically behaviors and speech that don’t come from the gospel and don’t communicate Jesus.  That’s the kind of offense I want to avoid. 

Note the surveys break down between Sunday Services at Faith and other ministries at faith.  Also note “Sunday Services” means the whole of a Sunday morning experience -  worship, announcements, communion, sermon etc. 

We welcome your feedback if you want to comment or email us further. 








Day 36: Meade’s Letter to Faith Community Church

April 5, 2009

In my epistle I want to focus on the gospel and it’s impact in the church.  When the gospel impacts an individual it saves and sanctifies.  When the gospel impacts a group of people it creates a community, a culture with certain characteristics.  We call it the Church.  The church community functions differently from how the broader secular culture functions.  I want to do a brief study of fellowship in the New Testament and draw out some implications for our church. 

Acts 2:42-47  says:   

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.  Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and miraculous signs were done by the apostles.  All the believers were together and had everything in common.  Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need.  Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts,  praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.

 

Here you’ve got an ideal picture of church community.  Everyone is committed to growing and learning.  They have dinner at one another’s homes all the time, not as part of a church program but spontaneously out of love and friendship.  They’re incredibly self-sacrificial.  So much so that no one is poor or needy.  There’s deep joy, intimacy, support, and worship.  No wonder they experienced daily conversions!  

This is the kind of fellowship I want for our church because it’s organic.  It’s not driven by pastors urging, nor is it a burden on congregants schedules.  It’s spontaneous and sincere.  However, I think there are several things about the fellowship described here that we don’t share and which makes our pursuit of fellowship more difficult.  

  1.  In Acts 2 everyone is a new believer.  Everyone is at the same stage of growth together except for the apostles but even they were pretty clueless just a few months back.  
  2. The fellowship in Acts 2 essentially consists of one culture and ethnicity in a broader environment of one culture and ethnicity.  
  3. The fellowship in Acts 2 is in a cultural environment where “all the people” look on them favorably.  

We don’t share any of these characteristics, each of which makes community much easier because it is strengthened by affinity.  In other words, it doesn’t take a transformation by the gospel to be in deep friendship with people who share your culture, experiences, maturity and ethnicity.  Acts 2 is what I’ll call “simple fellowship”.  It’s what churches experience sometimes in their early years.  The founding pastor draws a certain demographic of people.  They convert to Christianity and grow together often developing deep and profound fellowship with one another.  The community works together to purchase buildings, develop ministries, and face challenges.  Because they come from more similar background and experience there’s a natural ease in decision making and leadership.  The people are largely of one basic age group and social demographic.

Acts 16 describes another scenario.  In Acts 16 three conversions are recorded which all took place in the early days of the Philippian church.  The first is Lydia, a woman who is already a follower of God.  She heard the message of Jesus and believed.  Lydia was likely very wealthy.  She was a dealer of purple cloth and she owned two homes.  Because she was already a follower of God it can be reasonably assumed she was a spiritually interested person living a fairly moral life.  Lydia converted to Christianity primarily through a verbal presentation of the gospel. 

Second is a demon possessed slave girl.  She couldn’t be any more different from Lydia.  The slave girl was being exploited by her master for money.  Her life was in shambles.  God came into her life through an exercise of power when Paul cast the demon out of her.  Entirely different from Lydia.  

Third is the jailer.  Paul and Silas are thrown in prison for casting out the demon.  The jailer is tasked with guarding them.  Then in the middle of the night an earthquake shakes the doors of the prison open and frees Paul and Silas.  Verses 27-30 say: 

The jailer woke up, and when he saw the prison doors open, he drew his sword and was about to kill himself because he thought the prisoners had escaped.  But Paul shouted, “Don’t harm yourself! We are all here!”  The jailer called for lights, rushed in and fell trembling before Paul and Silas.  He then brought them out and asked, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” 

The jailer isn’t a wealthy spiritual seeker like Lydia in need of someone to just explain the gospel.  Nor is he falling apart or oppressed like the slave girl who needed spiritual power.  The jailer is a blue collar working guy who is primarily converted through witnessing the actions of Christians.   

I believe these three stories are included in Acts to give us a snapshot of the Philippian church.  Imagine Lydia, the slave girl, and the jailer in Bible study the next week.  How different they were!  This is much more like our world here at Faith.  Some of us were spiritual seekers, maybe we grew up in church and our experience of conversion was largely one of learning and understanding the gospel and being convinced of it’s truth.  For others of us we came to christianity through pain, addiction, and abuse.  God set us free from alcoholism or drugs or mental illness.  Still for others of us we came to Christ because we saw the character and consistency of other Christians.  We didn’t necessarily have intellectual obstacles or disasters in our lives, we needed to see christianity lived out.  

The fellowship that comes from this kind of story is much more complicated than that of Acts 2.  Jailers don’t have much in common with cloth dealers and neither have much in common with formerly demon possessed slave girls.  Actually their only commonality is Jesus but Jesus is enough to unite the most disparate people.

This is exactly what Galatians 3:28 says “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

Also Colossians 3:11-14

Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.  Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.  And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. 

 

Jew or Greek is an ethnic, racial, cultural division.  Slave or free is a class/economic division.  Male or female is gender obviously.  None of these should be causes for division but all could be.  

In Acts 11 the gospel spread to the city of Antioch.  Up to this point most of the converts to Christianity were Jewish.  They were called followers of “the Way”.  Christianity at this point was almost seen as a subset of judaism.  The city of Antioch changed things.  Antioch was a major Roman trade city which, like cities today, was multiethnic.  Like today there was strife and segregation between these different national and racial groups.  So much so that not only was the city walled, like all ancient cities, it was also subdivided by walls inside the city so that  there wouldn’t be riots or fighting.  The gospel came to Antioch and suddenly the church became multi-ethnic, both jews and gentiles united together through the gospel.  Antioch is where believers were first called Christians.  Some theologians believe the term Christian had to be invented to describe this new group of people who weren’t categorizable by their culture or race like everyone else.  

This is the kind of community we must create here at Faith.  It’s incredibly difficult.  To show you how easy division over these issues can be look at Galatians 2:11-13     

When Peter came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he was clearly in the wrong.  Before certain men came from James, he used to eat with the Gentiles. But when they arrived, he began to draw back and separate himself from the Gentiles because he was afraid of those who belonged to the circumcision group.  The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy, so that by their hypocrisy even Barnabas was led astray. 

This is Peter!  Peter, an apostle who actually knew Jesus!  If he could cause division between believers of different ethnicities then it is most certainly still a risk for us today.  Race isn’t the only threat either.  Churches all across America are dis-unified over differences in generations, dress, music, class, and education.

Faith needs to throw away any idea that we’re a church for old or young, black or white, rich or poor, democrats or republicans or any other demographic I haven’t mentioned.  The gospel is powerful to unite the most different of people because the thing they share in common – Jesus.  This church belongs to Jesus.  We are His.  

Here is where I get excited.  God has put our church in a position to be an incredible demonstration of the power of the gospel.  We are situated right beside Chester a community which is largely poor and african-american.  In the other direction is Wallingford, voted last year the 8th best town in America to live in by Money Magazine!  Wallingford is mostly white and middle to upper middle class.  Media as well is largely white, professional, and middle to upper middle class.  Brookhaven is mostly white, blue collar and is middle to lower middle class.  Brookhaven has a rate of secondary education below the national average.  We’re in the midst of a community that is incredibly diverse in race, education, class, background, experience etc.  In other words, for Faith Community Church, the “community” in our name is going to need to be created by the gospel, not by the fact that we’re all like one another.  

This makes being in and leading our church more difficult.  I also believe this is an incredible blessing from God that many churches never receive.  Many churches talk about diversity but don’t experience it.  Many churches talk about young and old learning together but don’t actually experience it.  Many churches talk about races coming together in reconciliation and unity but are situated in areas without much diversity.  God has entrusted us with tremendous opportunities and with the gospel and his Spirit, the only thing that will enable us to meet those opportunities.  

John 13:35 

By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”


Day 34: Why People Believe

April 4, 2009

I attended a lecture back when Reason for God came out last year where the speaker made a fantastic point.  He pointed out that the vast majority of people don’t believe something because a reasoned argument persuades them.  People decide to believe something for three reasons.  He likened the three categories to three buckets.  When someone believes something it is almost always a combination of the three buckets, never just one.  This is profoundly significant to us as a church. 

“Bucket” #1: Reason

This is the one everyone assumes.  It’s relied on in evangelism quite a bit.  Reason is basically thinking, logical persuasion, evidence, answers to questions, that kind of thing.  So when someone asks you “okay, you say you believe God is good, why does he allow bad things to happen?” Then you give an answer. That answer will either be rationally compelling or unconvincing.  Some people come to faith for rational reasons and vice versa – i.e. they disbelieve the gospel for intellectual reasons.  However, this kind of person is actually a small minority.  The next two buckets are much more significant.  In fact the next two buckets influence this first bucket in profound ways. 

“Bucket” #2: Personal Experience

Some people believe or disbelieve the gospel because of their personal experience.  Some people reject christianity in their adulthood because their parents or their church growing up were hypocritical and abusive in their christianity.  If you have lots of negative experiences with Christians the gospel will be much less convincing no matter how rationally satisfying it is.  It’s just a fact of how people process information.  If every time you ate carrots you got sick you would be pretty hard to convince that this time would be different.  

Here is where I have to make a really sad point.  Many many people have had really bad experiences with Christians in the past.  If they haven’t they probably still have had bad “experiences” through what they’ve seen about Christianity on TV or on the internet.  Christians have done wonderful things in history.  Things that make some of the good things in our world possible.  Christians have also done horrible things in the name of Christ.  It’s unlikely that people who have been hurt by christians and churches in the past will believe the gospel just because we make a good argument.  

The converse is true as well.  If someone has had experiences over and over again that Christians are loving and kind people of character they’ll be much more likely to believe what we believe. 

This is why just word ministry of the gospel is not going to be very effective on it’s own.  It’s going to take demonstration of the gospel through deeds to undo and replace the previous bad experiences many people have with Christianity.  It’s going to mean we need to live lives of incredible grace towards even our enemies.  

Often in the media Christians attack with all the same ferocity and hatred that is shown towards them.  That can not be.  That gets assumed of all christians.  The world has to see Christians returning blessings for curses and turning the other cheek.  It’s okay if that’s not fair.  If it were fair it wouldn’t be grace that we were showing.

“Bucket” #3: Community

It’s interesting how much of our beliefs we absorb from our community rather than through rationally thinking them through.  This is true of believers as well as unbelievers.  Many kids who grow up in Christian homes don’t really think through their faith until they leave for college.  The combination of family and church just supplied their beliefs to them and because that was normal in their world they believed and those beliefs seemed perfectly reasonable.  Then they get to college and the situation is the exact opposite.  No one believes Jesus was God.  Everyone thinks the idea of a “soul” is a little ridiculous.  Without any actual persuasion suddenly the beliefs of Christianity begin to seem a little ridiculous too.  

It works in the opposite too.  I see it with teenagers.  Sometimes a group of Christian teens friends will start bringing their non-christian friend to youth group and just hanging out with them.  Often it’s not long before that unbelieving teen converts to Christianity.  It happens because the beliefs of Christianity were lived out in a community right before their eyes.  

Another example of this might be Biblical gender roles.  There are lots of people who find the idea that there are biblically ordained gender roles for men and women incredibly offensive until they see it lived out well in the marriage of christian friends.  A wife’s submission doesn’t seem disgusting if its seen in a context of a husband who is loving his wife the way Christ does the church. 

Conclusions

If we want our church to be effective at convincing our unbelieving community and friends of the truth of Christianity we need to be strong in three areas – proclaiming the gospel in true and convincing ways, living grace driven lives of love especially towards our enemies, and enfolding people who don’t yet believe into our church community so they can see how the gospel works out practically.  

Prayer & Contemplation

  • Which of these are you weakest at in your own life?
  • Which of these are you personally strongest at? 
  • Which of these do you think is strongest in our church? Weakest? 
  • Pray for each of these “buckets.”

Day 34: Essentials for Growth – Discomfort

April 3, 2009

Intro to Essentials

This intro paragraph will appear before each of the Essentials posts. 

The progression of our posts so far for the 40 Days has been from Gospel to Private Disciplines to Corporate Disciplines now we move on to actual ministry of the gospel in the world.  That progression was very purposeful.  The gospel must fill us and transform us so that we then go out into the world with love and truth.  All the focus on personal and corporate disciplines for the past several weeks is to enable us to be more deeply changed and sanctified people.  Most of us would acknowledge that there are Christians out there “ministering” that have a technically accurate message but who have been so little transformed by that message that they actually don’t help anyone come to faith.  Often they harden unbelievers against the gospel by their self-righteousness and moralism or hypocrisy and compromise.  All that to explain what has brought us to the point we are at today as we begin the conclusion of the 40 Days of Prayer.  We are going to focus on 6 essentials for growth.  By that we mean qualities that have to be present in a church both in it’s individuals and in its group culture for there to be widespread conversion growth of unbelievers.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it had and it could go no further.

Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. 

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. 

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. 

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.

Almost all growth comes out of discomfort and difficulty as this classic illustration shows.  For you to grow as a Christian and for our church to grow it’s going to mean doing difficult and unpleasant things.  Sacrificing personal time to do volunteer ministry is hard.  Waking up early to study the Bible is hard. Confronting a friend on a sin is difficult. Giving financially is very difficult, especially today.  Getting the courage to talk to a friend about the gospel is difficult.  All these things are difficult but they’re necessary.  

It’s necessary for our church but it’s also necessary for you.  God uses hardship to sanctify us much more than he uses ease.  It is in during difficulty and suffering that we discover our idolatry.  Remember Jesus story of the two men who built houses, one on the sand and one on the rock.  It wasn’t until the storm came that the instability of the sand house was revealed.  

Often it isn’t until you lose your job that you realize how much you trusted your job to give you security and self worth.  It isn’t until your sick that you realize how much of your kindness and love came from the absence of trouble than the presence of character.  It is a lie that God wants to make us all rich, healthy and successful.  If he did he wouldn’t really be showing us the grace of forcing us through trial to rely on him and trust him.  

One particular area of discomfort I want to call to attention is that of personal evangelism.  Think honestly, how much of your reluctance to share the gospel with them or invite them to church comes from fear of their opinion of you?  Maybe you aren’t ashamed of being associated with Jesus but maybe you are ashamed of being associated with Christians.  Depending on who they are that might be legitimate.  None the less no one can become a Christian unless someone takes the risky step of starting the conversation.  Following Jesus costs, it just does.  It may cost being misunderstood, being labeled, being ridiculed, or losing friends.  

In our survey several days ago one of the highest rated answers for why people don’t share the gospel with a friend is that the friendship hasn’t developed enough trust yet to bear the strain of sharing the gospel.  That can certainly be true.  It can also be a sign that you picture sharing the gospel as a “close the deal” affair where you begin talking about Jesus and conclude with asking them if they want to convert by praying the sinners prayer.  A more effective plan might be to always have your faith be a part of your relationship from the beginning.  Have the courage to make it come up, not in a heavy handed gimmicky way where you use pre-planned questions.  Rather bring faith into your friendships in the same way it touches every area of your life.  If this is your plan and you have the courage to push through the discomfort you’ll find you’re talking about God much more because many many conversations can bridge over to connecting with faith.  

For instance the TV show Lost provides many opportunities to talk about how our past experiences of being sinned against shape how we then sin ourselves.  Then, of course there’s the question of whether they’re in purgatory (they’re not).  If you’re not a Lost watcher ignore that last example.  Another  is the Harry Potter book series have two instances where someone dies voluntarily in order to save someone else’s life.  That’s a great opportunity to talk about when that actually happened. Many other shows or books that get discussed every day present interesting examples or illustrations of biblical ideas or questions.  They don’t have to teach christian truth, they just have to bring up opportunities in conversations you could be having anyway and nearly every show does that in some way.  

That’s just media, there are many many other examples in your parenting, work, marriage, etc that could become natural opportunities for the gospel if you push through the discomfort.  

The wordpress survey widget isn’t working for some reason so there won’t be a survey today.


Day 33: Essentials for Growth – Friendships

April 2, 2009

Intro to Essentials

This intro paragraph will appear before each of the Essentials posts. 

The progression of our posts so far for the 40 Days has been from Gospel to Private Disciplines to Corporate Disciplines now we move on to actual ministry of the gospel in the world.  That progression was very purposeful.  The gospel must fill us and transform us so that we then go out into the world with love and truth.  All the focus on personal and corporate disciplines for the past several weeks is to enable us to be more deeply changed and sanctified people.  Most of us would acknowledge that there are Christians out there “ministering” that have a technically accurate message but who have been so little transformed by that message that they actually don’t help anyone come to faith.  Often they harden unbelievers against the gospel by their self-righteousness and moralism or hypocrisy and compromise.  All that to explain what has brought us to the point we are at today as we begin the conclusion of the 40 Days of Prayer.  We are going to focus on 6 essentials for growth.  By that we mean qualities that have to be present in a church both in it’s individuals and in its group culture for there to be widespread conversion growth of unbelievers.

Second Essential for Church Growth: Relationships

Lots of Christians rely on the wrong thing to see people become Christians.  This survey conducted by Life Way shows that the very best, most effective way for people to get information about church or about Jesus is through a friend. I highly recommend reading this brief article:

http://blogs.lifeway.com/blog/edstetzer/2009/03/receptive-audiences.html

Despite the fact that friendships are the most effective way to spread the gospel it is very easy, as a Christian, to have very few or even no non-christian friends.  That’s problematic.  It’s problematic especially for churches that want obey God by sharing the gospel with unbelievers.  There are reasons for this, some fairly natural, others more sinful.  

Natural Reason why Christians don’t have non-Christian friends. 

When someone becomes a Christian as a teenager or adult they still have all their non-christian friends.  They have tons of people they are close to that they can then share the gospel with.  This is incredible to see.  Sometimes whole families or circles of friends are converted to Christianity rapidly because one persons conversion leads to others.  This is beneficial to a Church because it creates a beneficial feedback loop.  When there are lots of new Christians coming to Christ in a church it actually creates a greater likelihood that more people will become Christians because there’s so many relational contacts.  Those folks in turn bring even more relational contacts.  

To some degree there is a natural life cycle to a church.  When it is planted there is usually a high degree of conversion growth as the original converts help bring their existing friends and family to Christ.  Then as those new Christians mature they develop their own deep community with other Christians in the church.   The result is that a church plant will often experience rapid conversion growth but an older established church will see most of it’s growth through transfers.  People who are already Christians coming to the church.  To some degree that’s just natural.  However God doesn’t just command new Christians or new Churches to proclaim the gospel, he commands us all.  There’s also some much darker reasons why Christians might have no non-Christian friends.  

Bad Theology

When I was in High School I would visit my friends youth group.  Every time I did the message the leader gave was essentially “If you love Jesus you won’t be friends with ‘secular’ people.”  That’s bad theology.  It’s born out of a good intention to have teens be careful about who they allow to influence their lives.  None the less God doesn’t want you to avoid friendships with people who aren’t Christians.  Sometimes a really heinous system is set up where non-Christians are avoided because of their “sin” but Christians are okay associations despite whatever character flaws they have.  That’s actually the opposite of Paul’s command in 1 Corinthians 5:9-11  

I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world.  But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat. 

Paul looks on the idea of not associating with non-christian sinners as almost comical.  It’s Christians who persist in unrepentant sin we should avoid.  

The “Christian Bubble”

Another reason Christians might not have any Christian friends may be that they’ve purposefully insulated themselves.  There are “christian” versions of everything.  School, exercise classes, coffee shops, music stores, book stores, dance studios, internet service providers, even breath mints.  None of these are necessarily bad in themselves but the net result may be very bad.  If you want to send your kids to a Christian school in order that they receive an education in the Bible then do so.  The problem is when Christians engage in these things, not for the purpose of learning more about God, but in order to avoid being around non-Christians.  

In Jesus prayer in John 17 he prays that his followers would be IN the world but not OF the world.  Unfortunately much of the Christian subculture is exactly the opposite.  It represents the same consumerism, greed, selfishness and narcism of the sinful non-christian culture with a sprinkling of moralism thrown in to make it “christian” but this whole subculture exists apart from the everyday working of the world in it’s own parallel reality.  The comically horrible result is many christians are of the world but not in it.  That’s not Scriptural.  It’s actually one of the reasons why unfortunately why some Christians think being relevant is about having guitar and drums in worship or whether you wear a tie in church.  Every survey of people who convert to Christianity shows that that stuff doesn’t even make it into the top 10 for reasons they became a Christian.  What does make it is things like clear biblical teaching and warm deep relationships with Christians.  

Moving Forward

So in order for our church to grow the members of our congregation need to have lots of friendships with people who are not yet Christians.  There are some natural reasons for why you might not have non-christian friends as well as some sinful reasons as well.  

Structure Your Life Differently 

You may have, for whatever reason, built a life without much opportunity for friendships outside your circle of Christian friends.  To change that you may need to change some of how you architect your life.  You may need to purposefully get rid of some of the “christian bubble” in order to replace that with other activities.  Join a non-church sports team, purposefully send your kids to environments where they are the only believer, pursue your hobbies and clubs apart from the “christian” version.  

It may mean you don’t have church friends over for dinner because your having someone else over.  Even better is mixing the two.  When you get together with friends invite both church folk and unbelieving friends. 

Pursue Friendship Differently 

You may also need to pursue friendship differently.  Most people pursue friendship solely based on affinity.  “I get along well with this person.”  Christians are commanded to love and show kindness even to our enemies.  That means you may have neighbors or coworkers you pursue friendship with even though they’re not naturally going to be your best friends.  

Seek Opportunities

Being a friend may make you a friend.  You may have neighbors or contacts that you could serve.  It could be as simple as you mowing their yard while they’re on vacation or bringing them a meal when they have a baby.  It could be as serious as you giving their child $1000 so they don’t have to drop out of college when their father gets laid off.  Here’s the catch.  Whatever way you serve has to be done out of sincere love, not artificially just to get them to come to church.  Whether they ever become a christian or not doesn’t matter.  What’s important is you showing grace based gospel motivated love. 

Prayer & Meditation

 

  • Think through your life, to what degree has bad theology or the Christian bubble drawn  you out of relationships you should be developing with non-christians?  To what degree has business and the “natural” pattern of life? 
  • What are 3 changes you could make in your life that would involve you more deeply in relationships outside the church? 
  • Do you practice grace driven friendship or affinity driven friendship?  

 

Survey

 



Day 32: Essentials for Growth – Knowledge

April 1, 2009

 

Intro to Essentials

This intro paragraph will appear before each of the Essentials posts. 

The progression of our posts so far for the 40 Days has been from Gospel to Private Disciplines to Corporate Disciplines now we move on to actual ministry of the gospel in the world.  That progression was very purposeful.  The gospel must fill us and transform us so that we then go out into the world with love and truth.  All the focus on personal and corporate disciplines for the past several weeks is to enable us to be more deeply changed and sanctified people.  Most of us would acknowledge that there are Christians out there “ministering” that have a technically accurate message but who have been so little transformed by that message that they actually don’t help anyone come to faith.  Often they harden unbelievers against the gospel by their self-righteousness and moralism or hypocrisy and compromise.  All that to explain what has brought us to the point we are at today as we begin the conclusion of the 40 Days of Prayer.  We are going to focus on 6 essentials for growth.  By that we mean qualities that have to be present in a church both in it’s individuals and in its group culture for there to be widespread conversion growth in the Church.   

First Essential for Church Growth: Knowledge

How well do you understand the gospel?  As a pastor I hear peoples testimonies fairly frequently.  Often these testimonies contain virtually no reference to the gospel.  Sometimes there is no mention of Jesus, grace, the cross, the resurrection, forgiveness, conviction of sin, or repentance.  The speaker just says they decided they wanted to follow God and be identified as a Christian at age 9.  That’s problematic.  

Christians are commanded to share the gospel.  Not just pastors but Christians.  If many people who  identify themselves as Christians understand being a Christian as only consisting of “believing in God” that’s a problem.  Believing in God isn’t the gospel.  Believing Jesus is God isn’t the gospel.  James 2:19 says even Demons believe that.  That doesn’t make them Christian demons.  The gospel is that though you were a sinner deserving God’s holy wrath Jesus, both fully divine and fully man, died and absorbed God’s wrath in your place on the cross.  Three days later he rose again bringing you new life.  Through trusting in him and his work on the cross you receive and are rewarded for Christ’s perfect record and Jesus receives and is punished for your sinful record.  That’s a lot more than “believing in God”.  Now maybe that’s what some people mean when they say they believe in God.  However, if that’s their understanding or if that’s their message then that’s not enough knowledge to share the gospel with an unbeliever. 

Sharing the gospel means you’ve got to understand it yourself.  Do you?  If someone asked you what it meant to be a Christian could you explain it to them?  If not why?  

All of us can explain things to some degree, even complicated things.  I talk to students often who can’t understand a particular subject in school.  They don’t do their homework, make poor grades etc.  They say that it’s because they can’t understand the subject matter.  Usually when a student says this  I change the subject and ask them about some of their personal interests.  Nearly always they’ll be able to explain fairly complex ideas when it comes to that area.  Students who can’t do geometry may be able to explain the entire plot of dozens of books or movies.  Students who can’t spend 10 minutes figuring out a geometry problem may spend 4 hours each and every day figuring out World of Warcraft on their computer.  There are students who, if they put 10% of the brain power they use to understand video games towards algebra would easily have a B average.  

In the same way there are adult men who can quote basketball scores or line after line from movies but who claim they can’t memorize Scripture.  Not true.  We tend to be able to understand and explain and remember those things we’re passionate about.  If you can’t explain the fundamentals of the gospel, one possibility, a very good possibility, is that you aren’t really that passionate about it.  Maybe you’re not passionate because you don’t really understand it yourself.  This is why we’ve spent so much time unpacking the gospel.  That is one of the reasons why every week Richard always relates what he is saying to the gospel.  

There are many other challenges to sharing the gospel associated with knowledge.  The issues like these may come up: 

  • The reliability of the Bible
  • Was Jesus married to Mary Magdaline?
  • Are all homosexuals going to hell? 
  • Evolution and Origins
  • Hypocrisy of Christians
  • The history of the Christian Church – racism, religious wars etc. 
  • Is Jesus the only way to heaven?  What about buddhists, muslims etc? 
  • Isn’t all truth relative?  

These and many other issues come up.  Giving answers can be difficult.  You may even have serious doubts or questions in these and other areas yourself.  However, quite a lot can be done without having all the answers.

Most people aren’t Christians.  In my experience most people who aren’t Christians have not yet gotten the chance to reject the gospel, they’ve rejected a false gospel.  Its a tragedy that if you go ask the average person what Christians believe it means to be a Christian they’ll talk for hours about the things we’re against morally and politically.  Odds are it will take a while before they get to the stuff that’s actually most significant.  

There are lots of different tools and illustrations people have used in the past to share the gospel.  There are diagnostic questions like “If you were to die tonight and stand before God and he were to ask you why he should let you into heaven, what would you say?”  There are illustrations like the bridge illustration used by the Navigators.  Here’s an example of that. 

These can be useful and I have probably used most of them myself before.  However, they can also be incredibly corny, put on, and awkward if using them is done in an artificial way.  They’re really only useful if you really “get” the gospel deep in your gut apart from using all the tools and illustrations.  

Another way lack of understanding the gospel is expressed is in moralism and self-righteousness.  It is entirely possible to share grace in an incredibly self-righteous way.  When that’s done the text of what you are saying (grace) is pretty easily subverted by the subtext of what you’re saying (self-righteousness).  This, once again, illustrates how “knowing” doesn’t just mean memorizing the facts.  When it comes to the gospel it also means some of the implications for those facts actually shape your character.  


Day 31: Community

March 31, 2009

Paul explained a great deal about Christian community in this text.  Take a few minutes and write down a few insights into Christian community you can learn from this text. 

Romans 12:4-21

Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully. 

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.  Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.  Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.  Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.  Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. 

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.  Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.  Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. 

Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.  Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 

On the contrary:    “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;   if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.    In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” 

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. 

There is far too much in this text to give an exhaustive explanation.  I’ll draw out a few implications for the nature of Christian community and then several reasons for why Christian community is necessary. 

The Character of Christian Community

Christian Community is Complementary

This text points out the way in which different members of a given church community have varying gifts and talents.  No one has all the gifts.  No one can do everything necessary for a church.  Some have the ability to give and fund ministry.  Others have the time to volunteer.  Others the ability to teach, others organize, others lead.  It takes the whole body using their gifts for a church to function. 

Christian Community is Diverse and Unified

In Galatians 3:26-28 Paul says, “You are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.  There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus”.  Jew or Greek was a racial and cultural distinction.  Slave or Free was an economic and class distinction and male and female is of course a gender distinction.  In our sinful world we see there are divisions and strife over each of these distinctions.  Unfortunately, to some degree, every one of us brings these divisions into church with us to some degree.  Churches tend to be especially stratified by age, culture, class and race.  That’s not Christ’s design and it robs churches of a lot of richness.  Jesus wants churches unified around him in and even despite their diversity.  

Christian Community is Non-Selective

You pick your friends but you can’t select your family.  They’re just given to you.  The church is a family, a family where each of the members is commanded to practice friendship with all the others.  That means that despite the fact each of us will naturally have friends in church we are closer to than others, we must have no enemies.  Every member of the body is to be a friend.  The reason for that is because of the very power that creates the church in the first place – grace.  We all naturally make friends through affinity.  By grace we make friends whom we have no affinity with.  

Christian Community is Sacrificially Supportive

Paul commands the Roman Church to bear one another’s burdens both practically and emotionally.  When you need to support someone who is undergoing emotional distress it draws on your own emotional resources.  It’s not pleasant, its draining, but it does help them bear a burden.  In the same way helping someone else financially means some of their burden must fall on us.  If you only help others when it’s no sacrifice to you then your not really bearing anyone’s burden.  

The Necessity of Christian Community

Community is Necessary for Accountability & Growth

Galatians 6:1 says, “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.” 

Without rebuke none of us will grow.  It is the nature of sin to deceive the sinner.  It takes others speaking into our lives, giving us gentle skilled rebuke to help us even be aware of sin.  I have known many people who have no friends who they’ve let become close enough to ever know the real them.  They don’t open up, never admit weakness, never really allow anyone to be their friend.  This is especially scary for men.  The result is character patterns increase and worsen and become more severe.  We need each other to rescue us from entangling and deceptive sin. 

Community is Necessary for Ministry

As pointed out above, it takes a diversity of gifts to carry out the mission of the church.  That doesn’t mean that every christian needs to minister in a church sponsored ministry (for instance there won’t be an “encouragement” team) but it does mean every christian should practice their gift. 

Community is Necessary for Evangelism

One of the most compelling testimonies to the unbelieving world is when they see the church unified around the gospel despite diversity.  Racism divides in the world, culture and class divide in the world.  When an unbeliever sees the church unified it is strong and compelling evidence that the power behind our community is supernatural grace. 

Community is Necessary for Knowing God & Worship

C.S. Lewis, the author of the Chronicles of Narnia was good friends with J.R.R. Tolkien, the author of the Lord of the Rings trilogy and Charles Williams, another author.  Charles eventually died.  C.S. Lewis writes this revealing a very important aspect of Christian community. 

In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out.  By myself I am not large enough to call the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all his facets.  Now that Charles is dead, I shall never again see Ronald’s (Tolkien) reaction to a specifically Caroline joke.  Far from having more of Ronald, having him “to myself” now that Charles is away, I have less of Ronald.  Hence true friendship is the lead jealous of loves.  Two friends delight to be joined by a third, and three by a fourth, if only the newcomer is qualified to become a real friend…. In this, Friendship exhibits a glorious “nearness by resemblance” to Heaven itself where the very multitude of the blessed (which no man can number) increases the fruition which each has of God.  For every soul, seeing Him in her own way, doubtless communicates that unique vision to all the rest.  That, says an old author, is why the Seraphim in Isaiah’s vision are crying “Holy, Holy, Holy” to one another (Isaiah 6:3) The more we thus share the Heavenly Bread between us, the more we shall all have.  

One of the things we don’t realize because we read the Bible in English is the communal commands of Christ.  This happens because we don’t translate the Bible with the southern term “yall”.  So for instance much of the commands of Christ in the Sermon on the Mount are not for individual Christians but for the whole Christian community.  

One of the benefits of Christian community is how it enriches our understanding of God.  Because we are all from different backgrounds with different experiences, aptitudes, and temperaments when we live together in community we each draw out things from Scripture and things about God’s character that the others wouldn’t have ever noticed on their own.  In a sense we cancel our one-another’s blind spots because none of us are blind in the same places.  I’ve benefitted from my more emotionally intelligent brothers and sisters.  I’ve benefitted from the life experiences of those older than I or who came to Christ under different life circumstances than I.  It has enriched me greatly to know Christians of different ethnicities and nationalities.  That’s part of what God desires from Christian community. 

Prayer and Contemplation

 

  • Are you involved in deep Christian community?  
  • Do you support your friends and work to bear their burdens? 
  • Do you practice grace based nonselective friendship? 
  • Pray for our church to be a rich diverse unified community.